As we head into the end of May and the beginning of summer, keep these (mostly) local events on your radar should you feel the need to turn up the heat.



1. Masturbate-a-thon
Sunday, May 18, at the Center for Sex & Culture downtown
Just think: Sex with someone you love, and for a great cause.
 
2. Ask the Doctors: Masturbation
Thursday, May 22, at Good Vibrations 603 Valencia St. (at 17th), 415-522-5460 6:30–7:30pm
May is masturbation month, the perfect opportunity to learn more about everyone’s favorite pastime. Join Dr. Carol Queen, Ph.D., and Dr. Robert Lawrence for one of Good Vibes’ most popular events as they explore the ins and outs of masturbation.
 


3. Playboy Mansion White Party
This weekend, May 23–25, at the Playboy Mansion in Los Angeles
Forget barbecues for Memorial Day. Check out my video from last year. I’m going again and you should too. Do I ever steer you wrong?
 

Wendy Merrill

4.  Seriously Funny: An Evening with Wendy Merrill (Author of Falling Into Manholes) and Alan Black (Author of Kick the Balls)
Saturday May 24, 8pm, at Edinburgh Castle Pub
C’mon you know you’ve fallen into a manhole or two. Local author Wendy Merrill fell into some you may even recognize yourself. I laughed out loud. I know it’s cliché but I really did. Her book’s been described as “the witty, skewed, rueful misadventures of an in-recovery-from-everything bad/good girl as she searches for love, sex, sanity… and herself.” Take the quiz on the website to find out if there’s a bad/good girl inside of you. Wendy will appear with Alan Black, author of Kick the Balls: An Offensive Suburban Odyssey.
 


5. Diva & The City Expo
Wednesday, May 28, at Domain Hotel in Sunnyvale
Goody Bags, entry into the raffle for a pair of stilettos from www.JewelsExpression.com, movie passes to Sex and the City courtesy of www.LoneStarTransportation.com, an original Rabbit Pearl from www.BlissConnection.com, a stripper pole from www.BlissPartiesInc.com, appetizers, cosmos, and a fun night of shopping. You don’t necessarily have to be a diva but I know you’ve needed to update your toys collection and buy that stripper pole once and for all. Okay, if not, just come and play!
 
6. Become an Extraordinary Lover ™, Level 1: For Men who Love Women 
Friday May 30, in San Francisco
If he’s not “getting” your subtle cues, he will after one of these all-day courses with local sex therapists Celeste and Danielle.
 
7. Sex and the City Film Premiere!
Opening Friday, May 30
Watch the trailer here.

So it’s the men in socks killing our sex drive!

A new British survey in the Sun revealed that “one in five couples never have sex” and “more than 44 percent of men keep their socks on while they make love.”

It seems as though the Brits could use some sort of sex challenge as well. 

Best part of the article is the debate about men wearing socks to bed. Sure, you might be thinking, not hot. However a professor had time to study the impact of socks and sex and found more orgasms were achieved when socks were on.

I can’t get past this socks thing (even though the article goes on to talk about scientific proof of the G-spot).

Socks in bed feeds into one of my favorite discussions: top turn-ons and turn-offs in bed.

Some of your fellow San Franciscans and sex partners have this to say on the matter:

“This sounds cliché but it’s such a turn off when guys go right for the prize without foreplay. I thought men loved boobs, the last guy I slept with guy never once touched them.”  - Deena, 38, Sunset

“I can stand it when girls don’t know what they want in bed. I always ask this girl I’m sleeping with, and she never tells me, but she never has orgasms. I’m not a mind reader and I’m getting annoyed.”  - Michael, 27, Mission

“I just realized I need a guy to talk dirty to me. It doesn’t have to be raunchy but even a little bit about what he wants to do to me or is doing to me turns me on like nothing else ever has.”  - Becca – 24, Cow Hollow

“My ex always dressed up for me. Even on random nights she’d throw on one of her burning man latex thingies and dance around. One time she wore a blond wig and because she’s brunette it was like I was having sex with someone else for the night.”  Aaron – 36, Upper Market

“Turn offs: low energy behavior, rolling over and falling asleep after he orgasms, guys that don’t take care of me first, guys that just do the deed quickly and are done ... Turn ons: all the opposite of the above; lots of foreplay, guys that can’t wait to rip my clothes off but take a long time touching and licking. I need to control the pace, I move him into different positions and places, start on the sofa move to the bathroom counter, facing a mirror, on a chair, then in bed.”  - Eva, 48, Pacific Heights

Remember this: one person’s turn-off is another’s wet dream. I’m just saying …

xxx
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